OMG!!! You can't ever use exclamation points!!! Ever!!!
Exclamation points are a troublesome beast. Like adverbs, we get lots of advice to cut them out of our books. But like so many nevers, it's more about proper usage than the exclamation point itself. They do have uses and are valuable tools to show emphasis. But too many become visually distracting. If readers are yanked away from the story by punctuation, that's a problem.
She was so lost! She couldn't believe how stupid she was, leaving her compass in the tent! What an idiot! A total idiot! Arrgghhh!Multiple exclamation points like this dilute the exclamation. Did you keep reading the sentences as exclamations, or did you just read them all the same intensity after the first few? If everything being said is exclaimed--and thus emphasized--then nothing stands out. If nothing stands out, what's the point of the exclamation point in the first place? Periods would achieve the same result.
Try using exclamation points only when you want the reader to hear the emphasis. That keeps the right tone on the right word, and lets you keep control of the excitement level of those words.
She was so lost. She couldn't believe how stupid she was, leaving her compass in the tent. What an idiot. A total idiot! Arrgghhh.It's also important to consider your readers when deciding to cut or keep an exclamation point. Exclamation point frequency varies depending on the market. You see more of them in young adult and middle grade fiction, as sometimes younger readers need more clues about the emotional context of a story, where older readers will easily pick up on them. If the context is clear and the emotion rings true in the words, the exclamation point is usually redundant.
I'm actually a fan of exclamation points. They're not something I use all the time, but there are instances where you could probably do exactly the opening example and get away with it. Imagine two girls talking, and one is making fun of how another reacted to something. Such exclamation point usage could work.
"Did you see Jessica at lunch today?" Mary struck a pose that was so Jess. "Oh My God!!!" she wailed. "Tommy Barthmeir asked me out!!! Can you believe it? ME!!"You likely wouldn't do this on the first page of your book, but I can see situations where one tiny overemphasis would fit the story you're trying to tell. The whole point here is to over exaggerate. Which is what exclamation points are for.
To check your own exclamation points, read passages out loud to see if you really need them. If you find yourself exclaiming the words, then maybe the point is needed. If you find that nothing really changes if you take it out, then maybe you don't. If it sounds melodramatic or unnatural to read them as exclamation, take them out.
As with so many things we worry about, if you have a lot of exclamation points in your work, that isn't an automatic death sentence for your novel. If the story is good otherwise, cutting a few points is easy to do. It's only when they distract from the story itself that you need to worry.